Tantrums: How To Act
Temper tantrums are an inevitable part of parenting, and while they can be challenging, they also provide an opportunity for growth and connection with our children. Explore with Toley some practical strategies that will help you weather the storm of tantrums with tenderness, understanding, and a touch of magic!
How To Help Our Children When They Throw Tantrums
Tantrums can overwhelm parents, mainly because we face them without tools or strategies, and the situation becomes unmanageable.
By implementing these gentle techniques, you can turn tantrums into transformative learning and emotional growth moments for you and your child!
- Create a Calm Environment: Creating a calm environment is critical when a tantrum strikes. Find a quiet and safe space where your child can express their emotions freely without feeling overwhelmed. Dim the lights, play soft music, or provide a cozy corner with cushions and blankets. This soothing atmosphere will help your child feel supported and may reduce the intensity of their tantrum.
- Practice Empathy and Active Listening: During a tantrum, showing empathy and actively listening to your child is crucial. Get down to their eye level, hold their hand, and provide a comforting presence. Validate their feelings by saying, “I can see you’re frustrated. It’s okay to be upset.” By acknowledging their emotions, you’re helping them feel understood and fostering a deeper connection.
- Encourage Verbal Expression: Language skills are still developing in young children, and sometimes they struggle to express their emotions verbally. Encourage your child to communicate their feelings by offering simple phrases or prompts. For example, say, “Can you tell me what’s bothering you?” or “Use your words to tell me how you’re feeling.” This gentle guidance can help them build their emotional vocabulary and communicate their needs effectively.
- Teach Deep Breathing Techniques: Deep breathing exercises are powerful tools for emotional regulation. Teach your child age-appropriate deep breathing techniques, such as “smell the flower, blow out the candle.” Practice these techniques during calm moments to become second nature when tantrums occur. Deep breathing helps your child relax, releases tension, and promotes self-soothing.
- Offer Choices and Empowerment: Tantrums often stem from a child’s desire for independence. Empower your child by offering choices within appropriate boundaries. For example, say, “Would you like to wear the red or blue shirt today?” These small choices give your child a sense of control and help diffuse potential tantrum triggers.
- Use Distraction and Diversion: When a tantrum escalates, distract your child by introducing a new activity or object. Sing their favorite song, offer a toy or a book, or engage them in a game. Positively redirecting their focus can shift their mood and turn their energy away from the tantrum.
- Practice Self-Care: Parenting can be emotionally draining, especially when dealing with frequent tantrums. Remember to prioritize self-care and seek support when needed. Take breaks, engage in activities that recharge you, and connect with other parents who understand your journey. By prioritizing your well-being, you’ll be better equipped to handle tantrums with patience and love.
PSST PSST… At Toley Ranz, we’ve got you covered with our Effective Parenting Strategies Books. These books contain helpful tips and tricks to help you navigate your child’s emotions and support their self-esteem. As an Emotional Detective for your kids, you’ll be able to identify what’s going on and help them feel heard and understood.