My Child Has No Friends At School
One of the most challenging things for parents to deal with is seeing their children suffer and not having the resources to help them. Social rejection or lack of friendships are some of the most frequent emotional problems children can experience and one of the most frustrating too.
Humans are social beings, and the context in which we develop dramatically influences how our brains develop. A socially isolated child can present a series of problems and complications in their future personal and professional development.
Having your child make new friends who understand and appreciate them for who they are is not easy. But it’s not impossible. It’s up to parents to help their child have the courage to make and keep friends in the new school year.
What Can You Do To Help Your Child Make Friends?
Don’t involve the school: Most concerned parents consider getting in touch with the school to request that their child be transferred to another classroom. The truth is that this is almost never a good idea.
Most interpersonal relationships in elementary education develop over time. Give your children time to get to know their peers better and develop potential friendships.
Forget the BFF: The idea of having a BFF (Best Friend Forever) doesn’t work for everyone. There are certain flaws with that concept. Adults understand that few things last forever, and unfortunately, friends are not always included in that group.
Fostering a variety of healthy friendships is often more beneficial in the long run for our children.
Help them keep their old friendships: Support your children in maintaining and nurturing old friendships, whether it’s inviting them over to play, attending after-school activities together, or even FaceTime calls to catch up.
There are always potential friends out there: It may just be a matter of being in the right place at the right time. Enroll your child in sports activities, music classes or cultural activities where they can interact with other children while learning a skill and having fun.
“But no one likes me!”: These phrases usually come from insecurities. Talk to your child and help them get it off their chest. Make them understand that there is nothing wrong with them and provide them with tips on starting conversations… which brings us to the next point.
Initiating conversations: Some children may be shyer than others when it comes to initiating a conversation, and nerves prevent them from doing so.
Here are some techniques you can teach your child to start a conversation with other children:
- Find something in common
- Offer to help
- Introduce themself
- Give a compliment
- Share experiences
- Ask for an opinion
- Invite to do something