How To Teach Manners To Children

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Many people believe that well-mannered children are born that way, but the truth is that manners can only be taught at home. Even if your child is naturally polite, it’s still important to reinforce good manners with them.


Manners are often confused with etiquette, but they are more than just polite appearances. They have to do with respect and kindness.


One of the main questions parents have is how to teach manners to their children and make sure they follow them even when the parents are not around. The best method is to lead by example and provide simple but effective instructions and explanations.


Keep reading to learn more!

What Manners Should I Teach My Children?

Before teaching manners, it’s important to decide which ones to focus on. Each family has its own rules about the manners they expect from their children, but some essential ones are those of courtesy and respect, such as:

  • Saying “please,” “thank you,” “I’m sorry,” and “you’re welcome.”

  • Greeting people with a hello.

  • Using polite table manners.

  • Asking before touching other people or things that aren’t theirs.

  • Being patient and waiting their turn.

  • Being inclusive and empathetic.

Tips for Teaching Manners to Kids

  • Give Them Precise Instructions: Even though saying “thank you” or cleaning our mouths after eating is normal for most adults, children may need explicit instruction for these behaviors. It’s important to explain the reasons for manners in a kind and non-embarrassing way. Don’t make a big deal out of mistakes! Moreover, imposing immediate consequences can make children feel ashamed and discourage the behavior you want to see.

  • Consider Their Age: Adjust your expectations to your child’s age and developmental level. While toddlers can say “please,” “thank you,” and even “sorry,” you can’t expect them to elaborate more at this age. As children get older, you can teach them more complex manners, such as phone etiquette and communication skills for handling problems politely.

  • Model the Behavior You Want to See: The best way to shape and manage your children’s behavior and teach them new skills is to be a role model and practice the behaviors you’re teaching them yourself. Show kindness and appreciation at home, in the store, with relatives, friends, and other children. If you expect your children to say “thank you” and “please,” you should also use those words yourself. As adults, we sometimes forget that children also appreciate and respond to kindness and good manners. Children shouldn’t be exempt from these behaviors just because they’re young.

  • Practice New Situations: Games and fun activities can help children learn manners. You can do role-playing, acting, or use cards to create situations in which children can practice their newly learned skills. You can also play the “What would you do if…” game to practice manners in different scenarios.”

In conclusion, teaching manners to children is an important part of parenting. By giving clear instructions, considering their age and developmental level, modeling the behavior you want to see, and practicing new situations, you can help your children develop good manners and social skills. Remember to be patient and consistent, and to reinforce good behavior with praise and encouragement. With time and practice, your children will learn the manners they need to be kind, considerate, and successful in their interactions with others.

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