How To Talk To Your Children's Teachers


Effective communication between parents and their child’s teacher is critical. When both parties can communicate openly and transparently, addressing concerns and asking questions becomes more accessible. Parents must learn to approach teachers about sensitive topics and work together to find solutions. Avoiding these conversations is not the answer, and now is the perfect time to have meaningful consultations with teachers to resolve issues on time.


Toley Ranz is here to help! We’ll provide tips and strategies to talk to your child’s teacher about any concerns you may have. 

How To Talk To Teachers Effectively About Your Concerns

Discussing with teachers at the right time if there is any issue with your child, such as learning challenges, misbehavior, the need for extra support, or children feeling mistreated by teachers, is crucial for parents who want to get involved in their child’s education and progress. 


How do we approach teachers? Let’s get started!

  • Prepare For The Meeting: Parents must prepare themselves and their children beforehand to ensure a successful meeting; this means more than just jotting down questions to ask the teacher. It involves creating an environment of openness, honesty, and positivity to foster healthy communication.

    One key aspect of preparation is to ask your child about their feelings and experiences at school. Try to find out how they feel about their classes, teachers, and peers. Having this moment can give you a better idea of any issues or concerns your child may have and express them clearly during the meeting.

    Additionally, it’s essential to list any concerns or questions you may have about your child’s academic performance, behavior, or social interactions at school. This list can help guide the conversation with the teacher and ensure you discuss all relevant issues.

    During the conference, remaining calm, respectful, and relaxed is crucial. This attitude can help establish a good rapport with the teacher, significantly enriching your child’s education. 

    Teachers are there to help your child succeed, and positively approaching the meeting can foster a collaborative relationship and make them part of your team.
  • Meet Face-To-Face: Conversing in person with your child’s teacher can be much more effective than over the phone. Establishing a solid relationship with your child’s teacher is essential; face-to-face meetings can help you achieve that. In addition, during an in-person meeting, teachers can share graded assignments, test scores, and artwork with parents. This type of meeting can be challenging over the phone, where parents may need help to see what their child has accomplished in class.

    Meeting someone in person can make the conversation more relaxed and social. Connecting with your child’s teacher in person can help you align with your goals for your child’s future.

    If you have concerns about your child’s progress or other issues, suggest a convenient time to meet with their teacher at the school. However, you can always opt for a Zoom video conference as a great alternative.


  • Be Specific: When speaking with your child’s teacher about a concern, it’s essential to take the time to describe the situation thoroughly. Remember that the teacher may not have some of the information and context you have. Simply saying, “you know what happened with my child,” can be vague and unhelpful. Instead, be specific and provide details to help the teacher understand the situation from your perspective.


  • Work Together: To effectively address concerns with your child’s teacher, it’s essential not solely to rely on them to devise a solution. Take the initiative to provide your suggestions for resolving the issue. Taking action shows that you are invested in finding a positive outcome and are willing to work collaboratively.

Remember, the teacher may also have ideas for solutions, so be open to their input. Working together can create a plan that benefits your child and promotes a positive learning environment!

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