How To Help Children Build Self-Esteem


Self-esteem is an essential characteristic for children and adults. Being aware of our value as individuals in our early stages of development is crucial to becoming healthy adults. 


Children with self-esteem often feel confident and proud of what they can do. Believing in themselves is critical to bouncing back after challenges and withstanding adversity.


As parents, there are many ways we can help our children develop their self-esteem and help them become emotionally healthy young people. Read on to find out.

Why Is Self-Esteem Important?

Self-esteem is, in a few words, the perception or valuation we have of ourselves. Healthy self-esteem helps us to be resilient and to cope with mistakes. Children with high self-esteem tend to do better at home, school, and with friends, even if they make mistakes or don’t succeed the first time they try something. 


Raising children aware of their self-esteem is vital to avoid being bullied and bullying other kids. If a child has a healthy self-perception, they will not let other people mistreat them, nor will they need to treat others this way. Knowing their value will help them stand up for themselves.


Self-esteem makes us feel self-confident, capable of doing things, understood, and part of society.

How Can Parents Help Children Build Self-Esteem

Self-esteem in our early stages of development is shaped by our closest environments: family and school. Every child and family is different; for some, building healthy self-esteem may be easier than for others. Contexts and environments may condition the development of self-esteem, but they are not determining factors, and correct guidance can always help improve children’s self-esteem. 


As parents, there are some ways we can help our children strengthen their self-esteem and feel good about themselves: 

  • Teach New Things To Your Children: Every time a child learns how to do something new, their self-esteem grows alongside their personalities. When we teach them things such as how to dress or ride a bike and let them do it on their own later, they gain confidence, therefore, start to believe in themself. 

  • Challenge Your Children: Mistakes can happen when doing new things like playing a new sport or a game. Challenge your children and encourage them to try again. This can help them build resilience.

  • Praise Your Children: When they do nice things or succeed in what they like, praising is one of the most direct ways to show how proud you are of them. Praising their efforts, progress, and positive attitudes is much more important than a result. 

  • Avoid Negative Criticism: When your children make mistakes or behave in a way you don’t like, avoid negative messages about their personalities that can harm them. You can try to give them constructive feedback on how they can do better next time.

  • Recognize Their Strengths: When we know what our children enjoy doing and what they don’t, encouraging them becomes easier. Focus on their strengths and help your children develop them. 

Toley Ranz’s mission is to help children to become experts at standing up for themselves while promoting self-esteem and emotional well-being, preventing bullying and harassment.

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