Helping Your Children Develop Positive Attitudes


How often do we, as adults, get frustrated when we don’t get what we want? A lot, right? The same thing happens with children. We hear them say things like, “It’s too long!” “I can’t do it,” “I’ll never be able to do it,” “It’s too hard!” and it’s heartbreaking for parents to hear those phrases because we know they can do whatever they set their minds to with success!


Those phrases come from frustration, negativity, and sometimes a lack of self-esteem, but by encouraging our children to have a positive attitude, we can change that!


Toley is here with some tips on how to help your children develop positive attitudes and behaviors, so they can approach life with confidence and positivity.

Ways to Help Your Children Develop Positive Attitudes

Teaching our children to stay positive and deal with disappointment is a long, non-linear journey, but we can support them in developing the skills to handle frustrations and become successful adults in the future.”


  • Setting a Good Example: Children watch your reactions to stress. They see how you treat difficult people and how you react to your failures. It’s important to show yourself love and understanding and deal with your frustrations in a healthy way, so you can set a good example for your children.

  • Encourage a “I Can Do It” Attitude: Instead of your children saying, “It’s useless, I can’t,” motivate them to say, “I’ll try my best.” It’s about turning negative affirmations into positive affirmations.

  • Teach Them to See the Positives: Teach your children to see the positive side in situations and people and not constantly focus on the negative. If your child tells you they don’t like a classmate, teach them that it’s okay to not get along with everyone but that they should give them a chance to get to know them better and they might be surprised.

  • Make Your Home a Positive Place: Your home is the “happy place” where your children feel safe. Don’t forget to smile, make jokes, and play around! Even if it gets messy. A home doesn’t always have to be perfect, but it should be happy. A happy person who comes from a happy home has a completely different demeanor, which makes them feel and do better.

  • Say No Without Saying No: Try changing some statements to avoid using the word “NO.” Instead of saying, “Don’t use that plate,” try saying, “How about we use this plate (so we won’t break the other one).”

  • Don’t Miss Opportunities: Take every chance you have to recognize and help your children see their strengths. This will help them see how unique and special they are. They will need this confidence boost as they get older and become more aware of themselves.Children will face more challenges as they grow; some may be frustrating or disappointing, but that’s life. However, if they have a solid, resilient, positive mindset, they will get through these situations in a healthy and critical way.

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