Help Your Children Calming Down
When children start to develop strong emotions around two years old, not only excitement or happiness appears. Anger, frustration, guilt, or embarrassment can start showing too. Toley Ranz is here to help!
Children who begin to show these feelings will need their parents’ help in managing those feelings, and help them find calm in stressful situations. Read on to learn more about this topic and how you can help your children.
Why Do Children Need Help To Manage Strong Emotions?
Children are still on their road to getting to know themselves and their emotions, children don’t always have the right words to express their feelings. As a result, they may react temperamentally and volatile to things that stress them out or make them angry.
Social situations or crowded places, such as birthdays or shopping malls, are common settings where these overflowing emotions often appear. Our children will often need help to calm down and avoid emotional outbursts. That’s when parents step in.
How To Help Your Child Manage Their Emotions
There are some ways you can help your children calm down and understand that they can manage these feelings in other ways.
- Identify The Emotion: It may take time, but identifying whether your children are feeling sad, nervous, or angry is key to helping them ward off these feelings. You might be able to do this by reading their body language and closely listening to them.
- Build a Safe Space: Show your children that they are always in a safe space for you and them to talk about their concerns.
- Stay Close To Them: By standing by their side and showing calm and support, you can help your children feel understood.
- Be Patient: Every child and every situation is different. Sometimes it may take longer for your child to calm down. Be patient and wait for them.
- Set Limits: Talk to them about adjusting their behavior with a set of new limitations on what they can’t do for next time. Explaining that specific reactions which might hurt someone, such as hitting or yelling are not okay are unacceptable. This can help kids understand their feelings and connect with them from healthier places.
- Reconfort them: Never deprive your kids of your love! After things have passed, cuddle or do an activity that you both find comforting. This can help your child relax after feeling stressed.
- Take Some Time: If your child’s emotion is too strong for you to help them at that moment, step aside and take a moment to breathe. This silence can help your child move forward on their own or find their own solutions.
- Talk About The Issue: When things calm down, and you can talk to your children about what happened, address the behavior. Talk about why you didn’t like their reaction and how they can learn to do better the next time such an emotion comes up. You can suggest other ways to react and come up with some solutions to the problem.
Difficult problems are part of everyone’s life. That’s why we believe it is essential to keep open channels of conversation with our children. Addressing these issues with compassion, love, and respect can positively impact their emotional development and social skills.
As complex as these issues may be, putting them into perspective, asking questions, and finding answers together is an excellent way to bond with our children and create trusting spaces with them.
Toley Ranz Self-Care, Becoming an Emotional Detective will teach parents:
- HOW to assess a situation quickly.
- HOW to detect your child’s emotional needs.
- HOW to get your kids to comply