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How To Communicate Effectively With Your Children

Every moment you spend with your child is an opportunity to communicate and connect with them. It’s not just about your words but also how you express yourself through your tone of voice, facial expressions, and physical affection. These small gestures can significantly shape their emotional development and build a strong bond with them.


The way you communicate with your kids not only teaches them how to be with others but also shapes their emotional growth and how they form relationships in the future.


So, if communicating, even among adults, is already hard sometimes, when it comes to children, it’s normal not to know how to express ourselves or make our children understand certain things. That’s why Toley is here to help! 

Strategies To Improve Communication With Your Children

  • Active Listening: As a parent, actively listening to your child can make them feel valued and understood. Simple gestures like smiling and nodding while they speak show them that you are fully engaged and you care about what they have to say.
    By getting down to their level and making eye contact, you can create a sense of safety and connection with your child. You can encourage their communication skills by asking open-ended questions such as “what,” “why,” and “how.” This will help them learn to tell a complete story and include important details.

  • Explaining Feelings: Helping your child understand and express their emotions is crucial in fostering their emotional intelligence.  When your child shares their feelings with you, whether it is through words or nonverbal cues, it’s important to listen with empathy and without judgment. Try to see the situation through their eyes. If they struggle to put their feelings into words, gently guide them by suggesting words that describe their emotions, like happy, sad, relaxed, hurt, scared, proud, angry, and so on. This will help them to identify and communicate their emotions more effectively. You’re not just helping them at the moment but also equipping them for the future.
  • Reflective Listening: One of the best ways to show your child that you are listening and care about their thoughts and feelings is by reflecting on what they say to you. This can be done by repeating their words differently. For example, if your child says, “I’m not talking to Jessica anymore,” you could respond with, “So you’re not talking to your friend anymore?” This allows them to express themselves without feeling judged and opens the door for deeper conversations. By using this technique, you may be surprised at how much your child wants to share with you, and it can help strengthen your relationship with them.

  • Find Time To Talk Everyday: It can be easy to get caught up in the busyness of daily life and forget to make time for your children. But just like you, they are also busy with school, homework, extracurriculars, friends, and other activities. Despite the agitated schedules, it’s important to seek out those small moments every day to connect and communicate with your child. These can be simple exchanges like chatting in the car on the way to music lessons, sharing a quick breakfast before work and school, discussing the day over dinner, or even having a bedtime conversation.
    These little moments may seem insignificant, but they can make a big difference in strengthening your relationship with them. Remember that communication is the key to a strong relationship, so take the time to consider how you communicate with your child and try to improve it.

So, even though the way you communicate will change as they grow up, these skills will help you to build a healthy relationship that will last for a lifetime.